An article I wrote reason just for 'practice' on Chinese and Orthodox death ritual. It's six pages long, follow the link at the bottom for the full text.
Memory Eternal
By
Seraphim Davidson
In modern Taiwan there are few concerns as important to people as the remembrance of the dead. Remembrance of the dead plays a role in many of Taiwan's traditional practices. In the same way, the importance of remembering the dead is an important part of Orthodox Christian practice. Between these two ancient traditions there are many striking similarities as well as important ontological differences.
In order to talk about remembrance it is important to define just what one is remembering. Chinese tradition has a number of sometimes conflicting explanations as to what happens when we die. The best outcome is that a departed family member dies a "good death," is buried properly, and becomes an ancestor. The afterlife of this person is sometimes explained as existing in three souls, one which resides in the name tablet on the family altar, one which resides in the tomb, and one which passes to another realm. For one who dies a "bad death," such as one who dies unmarried, childless, poor, or by suicide or drowning, few or none of the proper rites for transformation into an ancestor may be performed. The unmarried, especially women and children, may not even have their name tablet placed on the family altar. The departed is in particular danger if they have no male heir to perform the rituals in service of the dead, though for some this is avoided by a post-mortem adoption. In these cases the soul may be left wandering, in Chinese belief it may become a "good brother," a hungry ghost. Even in these cases the soul is not left without hope. At regular times of the year, Chinese offer food and money to the wandering ghosts, both to their departed families and to any nameless ghosts searching for food, in compassion for their unhappy state. Once a year at the Pu-du festival, it is believed some ghosts will find release from their wanderings. Somewhat conflicting with this is the belief held by some Buddhists of possible rebirth in the Western Paradise of the Amitabha Buddha, but in the minds of adherents these beliefs often work together. A belief held by many is that after a time spent in the underworld, they will be reborn in a new life. Many spend this life hoping the next one will be better. For this reason, some people choose to take their own lives as an escape from a difficult situation. There are some variations in explanations of what happens after death, and customs vary from place to place and among ethnic groups, but I think the above gives a fairly accurate generalization of the beliefs of most people in Taiwan.
Whatever variety of theories there are as to how many souls there are and where exactly they reside, let us return to the question of what exactly is being remembered. Beyond a person's qualities which may determine what mortuary rituals are preformed, qualities such as gender, wealth, age, children, and social or family status, each person has a unique identity which is not destroyed in death. Even if some part of the person was to be reborn, it would not change the fact that they had existed as a unique person, a person which, once given life, does not cease to be. At the tomb, at the family altar, or at the table of food and money offerings, what is being remembered is the unique personhood of the departed. The rituals preformed after death are a recognition that some essential part of their loved one continues to exist. Customs such as the cleaning and decoration of tombs and having a meal at the tomb, announcements to one's ancestors of marriages, births, business ventures, and other important events, as well as divination to ask the advice of ancestors, are all ways family members attempt to participate in the continued existence of the person.
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